Yesterday I spent the afternoon in Captain Clumsy’s classroom, helping with bookweek activities. A lovely afternoon it was too, we made a duck and a caterpillar. We read books and ate fruit. And I’m thinking “How nice is this! The sun is shining, my boy is happy, life is good.”
And then the Deputy Principal taps me on the shoulder and says “Before you go, could you pop into my office for 5 minutes?”
She probably just wants to follow up on the situation with Actor yesterday, I tell myself.
As I get to her office I see Deflector sitting there, looking sheepish with his head low.
I stop dead in my tracks. What now? Can I even deal with another ‘incident’ at the moment? Two days in a row! What fresh hell is this?
DP is quite apologetic “I’m so sorry Rachael” she says. “You’re going to hate me”
You’re sorry? No, I’m sorry that you have to deal with my suddenly feral children
As it turns out Deflector and a friend decided not to go to class and spent the afternoon wandering around the school. Long story short, they stole some drinks from the canteen and defiled a bathroom. Unimaginable is not a big enough word for the things that happened in that bathroom. I cannot fathom what was going through their stupid boy brains.
They were obviously caught. As the Principal and the Deputy Principal begin to uncover what happened, it becomes clear that while Deflector assisted in the stealing of the drinks, he sat back and watched the trashing of the bathroom. He didn’t stop it, it he didn’t walk away, he didn’t tell his friend to stop being a dick. He did nothing.
Deflector is learning a valuable lesson today.
Being an accomplice to the crime makes you just as guilty as the offender.
He has acknowledged what he did was wrong. He can recite his poor choices. He is gracefully accepting his punishments and taking responsibility for his actions (shocking I know!) He is being punished just as harshly as his friend. He is spending today in detention doing all manner of awful tasks. Today is an optional day for student attendance too, the teachers are participating in the stop work action, and I was planning on keeping all the kids home. We we’re going out for milkshakes and a walk on the beach. He is so annoyed with himself right now.
He deserves every horrible task they give him, and then I’m going to give him some more horrible tasks of my own. He started last night with The Pile. (hehehe I am a bad bad mother :-))
My child will not be an accomplice or an accessory to another crime ever again.
The really sad thing is that his friend, despite telling the principal the truth, has back peddled and told his parents a bunch of lies. He denies even being there. He is telling his parents that he was in class the whole time and doesn’t have anything to do with it. Deflector did it all by himself.
Nice friend right there.
So, I guess this is lesson number two for Deflector.
You never know who is going to throw you under the bus to save their own ass.
Obviously, when the parents meet with the principal to discuss the discrepancies in his story, it won’t take much for the Principal to shoot holes through his claims. And when that happens, that kid will not be able to sit down for a month.
Still, it is hard for Deflector to understand why his best friend would hang him out like that. This friend has pulled alot of ‘Do It or I won’t be your friend anymore’ crap in the last month and I have a feeling Deflector is coming to a conclusion that we have all had to face at some point in our lives. It might be time to leave this friendship behind.
Two life lessons in one day. My boy is growing up. I just have to hope that we are successful in steering him away from the darkside.
Hubby told me that when I pick the kids up from school on Thursday I should save DP the trouble of a phone call and just stick my head in the office and say “What have you got for me today?”